After a long time I'm giving words to my thoughts my vent outs..had a mixed weekend. Watched the movie Honeymoon Travels Pvt Ltd with a friend of mine who though works in the same office and same building hadn't met for months now, which was the best part of the Weekend.Then Sunday morning climbing Chamundi hills after a long time with Preethi and listening to her story and why she was missing all these days from all our social gatherings and even the general girls'chit chat sessions spoilt the whole setting.  The movie by itself had triggered so many thoughts about relationships and just when I was trying to settle down saying that its the same story everywhere.. people and relationships do change after marriage... I had to listen to this sad story of Preethi...she broke up with her 5 year long time friend which had turned into a beautiful relationship in the last 2 years. Just when things were getting into shape and the marriage talks were going on, the guy realized that she's not his type. After a lot of yes and no in the last 2 years, the guy said that she's too independent for him.... all that she did was to manage a team of 25+ people and occassionally one of the team member had an issue that they wanted to discuss over the coffee and did not wanted to do it any official conference room and make it official and he found her having coffee with one of her team members. What began as a small objection to her going out for dinner with the project team by giving the reason as not spending enough time with him got blown into saying that she's not loyal and honest and disgustingly saying that she enjoys roaming around with guys. I can't put into words how shocked I felt when I had to simply listen to all these things.  By her voice I can make out how much pain she might've gone through when she really went through these situations coz just hearing it made me feel so sick..

If the modern parents are ready to raise their daughters to think independent and to have their say/opinion in the life, are they not teaching the sons also to understand the same and to respect and understand the changing ways of teh life. Can't the guys even today digest the fact that girls to an extent have grown out of thinking that husband, family is the ONLY life BUT they do think that they themselves as individuals matter to them and they too would like to ahve some opinion or their say in the happenings/affiars of the family. What was really shocking was to hear that this guy tells my friend (who's currently working as a Project Manager in one of the biggest S/w company in India and works for a very critical client by managing a team of 25+ people) that whatever comes into the house would only be his choice and that he would decide how she dresses up for office/outings and he would decide which dinner she can attend or she cannot!!!!

The whole sunday went off in just trying to digest this fact and in turn my brother had to face the result of all these turmoil that was going on in my mind. Its already 2 days since I heard this story and am still trying to come to terms with what I heard. Is there anyway to get out of this?

was thinking what to write.. I should continue this blogging but with what? So I was thinking what I'm doing here even after I completed my work for the day.. then I thought how many times did I check the other blog where in I had put a comment.. ?I was waiting if I would get a reply for my comment. so I'm here waiting for comment on the comment.. thne it occurred to me that when we all say that we want to do on our own , be our own and all that but we depend so much on others opinions.. views.. so finally. it is nothing but the Recognition. All that we want in life is some recongnition.. from someone or the other.. isn't it the all thatis behind the "Quality Time"  that we talk about.. spending with whoever matters to us.. family/spouse/kids/teh special someone/the boss(!!!!@@###) once the basic neds are met.. the wants grow and I think the most prevalent want is the recogniton. the thoughts are running.. so many things so many incidents but I think its time for me to log off for now and get abck home before I get the call.

Finally.. I'm here .. in the (or is it on the) net.. Have been thinking of this but (no no.. not that I'm too busy) just simple procrastination. Today at last I decided that I should do it today or Never and so here I'm starting my story online.. This is my first Weblog.. though not my first write up.. have been writing the classical diary and talking to myself non stop.. there are lots of people who inspired me to take this step of launching into weblob (btw.. I'm a software engineer working for the last 5 years!!!) The first credit goes to my dad.. though he's not a blogger himself .. he reads and replies and explores things by himself. Then there are few bloggers like Ruchi, Priya, The Bach, 'Avinash', Sanjay, Joshi who gave me the virtual push. So stealing sometime in the office hours I at last made it here today..

Congratulating myself....

Will be back soon..